Quite a long time ago I read a great article on sexual intimacy. It stated that in the intimacy department- men are like microwaves. They are standing ready to go at the press of a button. In other words, men don't need much to turn them on and be ready for sex. Like a microwave, they heat up quickly and get the job done fast.
Women, however, are like crockpots. They heat up slowly and simmer for awhile before the job is done. Women need more effort to arrive at the boiling point.The author shared that women simmer best when efforts are made by her man to heat her up all day. This is best done by thoughtful gestures, kind words and loving acts.
Contrary to what Hollywood would have us believe, sexuality is as important to our emotional as it is to our physical sense of well being. It is not called making love for nothing. It is the closest we can ever get to another human being. We are at our most vulnerable at this time. It is a time that can open hearts.
Women need to feel loved as well as wanted. Sorry to tell you this but if the only time you are touching your wife is this time it's not enough. If it's the only time she hears I love you, it's not enough. If it's the only time you really interact with her, it's not enough. The crockpot just isn't going to be hot.
I heard this story- a man went to his pastor to complain about his love life. The pastor knowing the man loved to fish used that. He asked if after fishing the man would go home and throw his gear in the corner of the garage to get tangled and twisted. No way was the reply. He would carefully put everything away- cleaned, dried, and tangle free for the next time. The pastor explained that loving his wife was the same. He would get back what he was willing to put in. Wise man!
Many men seem to think that we want something big, showy and expensive. Wrong! Most of us would treasure a hug, a whispered expression of love, a break from the kids, a compliment, a smile, a thank you, etc... Is that really too much to do to keep the pot simmering? If you don't believe me, try it for awhile. I think you'll be sold. That's the view from my side of the street, what's yours?
Women, however, are like crockpots. They heat up slowly and simmer for awhile before the job is done. Women need more effort to arrive at the boiling point.The author shared that women simmer best when efforts are made by her man to heat her up all day. This is best done by thoughtful gestures, kind words and loving acts.
Contrary to what Hollywood would have us believe, sexuality is as important to our emotional as it is to our physical sense of well being. It is not called making love for nothing. It is the closest we can ever get to another human being. We are at our most vulnerable at this time. It is a time that can open hearts.
Women need to feel loved as well as wanted. Sorry to tell you this but if the only time you are touching your wife is this time it's not enough. If it's the only time she hears I love you, it's not enough. If it's the only time you really interact with her, it's not enough. The crockpot just isn't going to be hot.
I heard this story- a man went to his pastor to complain about his love life. The pastor knowing the man loved to fish used that. He asked if after fishing the man would go home and throw his gear in the corner of the garage to get tangled and twisted. No way was the reply. He would carefully put everything away- cleaned, dried, and tangle free for the next time. The pastor explained that loving his wife was the same. He would get back what he was willing to put in. Wise man!
Many men seem to think that we want something big, showy and expensive. Wrong! Most of us would treasure a hug, a whispered expression of love, a break from the kids, a compliment, a smile, a thank you, etc... Is that really too much to do to keep the pot simmering? If you don't believe me, try it for awhile. I think you'll be sold. That's the view from my side of the street, what's yours?
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